Wednesday, August 16, 2017
Potty Mouth Leadeship
I used to believe that in this country if you worked hard enough that you could get anywhere you wanted to in life. I believed that your life depended on your actions alone and no one else's. It is becoming more evident in today's society that this in fact is not true for every American. I am biracial -- my mom is white and my dad is black. As a young child in kindergarten I went to a school in North Carolina where I believed it was not ok to be "Black". I was afraid to tell anyone that my dad was "Black". I told the teachers my dad was "white" and when he came to pick me up at school they refused to let him take me. My mom had to come get me. I as that little child felt scared because of ridicule from others about my fathers skin color. I now have 2 boys who have to grow up in this world. My oldest son has faced and continues to face racism. My children are biracial, however, that has not stopped kids from saying things like " I can't be your friend because you're black, " "my dad can beat your dad up," "you are a brownie," "my parents say I can't date someone who is black." I hurt for my oldest because he is a smart, intelligent, hard working, responsible, dependable, faithful, honest, encouraging, uplifting, young man but people will not give him a chance because of something God gave him and he can't change it. Nothing hurts more than knowing your child is hurting and there is nothing you can do to fix it. My son would treat any girl with respect and dignity and you would think that's what would be important to her parents but no the color of his skin makes them look at him differently. My mom dated white men and black men who both physical and emotionally abused her. There is the potential of evil in every living being. I will raise my sons to be respectful, loving, kind, generous, devoted, trustworthy, faithful, honorable, encouraging, strong, Christian men. They will not mistreat anyone because they know their parents will not stand for it. They will stand up for what's right because they know the trials their parents have faced and fought and won. They will know that there is evil in the world and the way to combat it is with love and the never ending cycle of raising children to see the world as it should be seen "we are all human beings and everyone deserves to be treated as such." I think our country is headed in the wrong direction and until leadership takes a stand and says bigotry and hatred from anyone will not be tolerated and will be prosecuted then the country will continue to divide. When will people awake and see that other countries hurting America is not the problem. The problem is here at home in our own country. We are killing each other and Trump doesn't take it personally. But let the so called "fake media" speak out about something he said and he jumps in defense mode. I'm sorry Mr. President when you took office you made a vow to do what's right for America. Dividing the country is not the way to make America Great Again. The morale to all of this is racism still exists today and its not just white and blacks it against everyone and until we (everyone) takes a stand for whats right and speak up when something wrong happens nothing will change.
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To an Abuser
This post is for all the women and children who have been or continue to be abused by someone. You the abuser are a coward. You like to make others feel less than you. You like to control how others feel and you want to be the "macho" person whether you are a woman or man. It makes no difference in gender. Both can be abusers. I was abused as a child and I saw my mom, grandmother, sisters, cousins, etc be abused. I saw the women in my life turn to men who did not deserve them. I saw my mom choose men over her children countless times and that ultimately cost her, her children. I became the protector and tried to help my mom and protect my sisters. Once you see abuse it is forever burned in your memory and one scent, one word, one touch, one picture, one person can bring all those emotions flooding back. To the abuser you have got to stop. You ruin lives. You steal the innocence from children and you cause them to fear people. To the abuser you cause catastrophic chaos that leads to depression, that leads to abuse from the victim to others, that leads to a never ending cycle until someone is brave enough to stop it. To the abuser you may get you way in this world which is so unfortunate but God is the creator of all things and he will make you answer for your wrong doing. I am so fortunate to have a loving, caring, encouraging husband, who also was witness to abuse and made the decision to not follow the same track. I saw my mom be destroyed by her abusers and internally we were destroyed along with her. Til this day when i see her abusers walking around it causes me pain, anxiety, stress, anger, resentment, etc. I know these people still have a hold of me in that instant and that angers me more. I am a strong person but when you hurt someone I love I take it personally and it remains with me forever. To the abuser you will not win. You are not strong you are weak. You any not courageous you are scared. You are not a man. You will not win this ultimate fight. For the one who sees all, knows all, and creates all will have the last word and for that I find strength. To the victims I pray for you to see the other side od fhe track and choose to be the barrier in the cycle of abuse. I pray for you to seek God so you can be strong and stop the cycle. I have a heart for helping people...guess I learned that at an early age and it has stayed with me since. I will continue to speak out for what is right and for what I believe in. Abuse is wrong no matter who you are, what you look like, what your religion is, etc. Abuse is abuse. See it, stop it, stand up for what is right